Here is an idea we don’t want to encourage:
A deacon is one who serves, listens with diaconal heart, and is able to do this better because he is married.
According to this local report, it comes from the homily of Bishop Michael Malone of Maitland-Newcastle given at the ordination of a permanent deacon.
It should be remembered that all priests are ordained deacons also (as are all bishops), and that the charism of marriage and the charism of celibacy are different gifts that are used to serve God and his people in different–not “better”–ways.
I very strongly doubt the good bishop’s judgement that one is a better “listener” simply “because he is married”. Maybe the bishop’s own lack of personal experience of the state of marriage is showing through in his wishful thinking.